I'd like to speak a bit more about miscarriages, not to jinx the OP, but because this is rarely spoken about in the public. I don't meant to instill FUD, but ra

I'd like to speak a bit more about miscarriages, not to jinx the OP, but because this is rarely spoken about in the public. I don't meant to instill FUD, but rather, I'm trying to help others along with their own journey. I am going to use as plain a language as I can, not because I am trying to be cruel, or glorifying "harsh truths", but because I have found speaking plainly and simply helps a lot with grieving. In my journey with my wife, we have had two miscarriages. The grief I felt also took me by surprise. Early on, my wife would say, "we got pregnant!" At the time, I thought that was silly. Sure, we conceived, but biologically, she was pregnant and I was not. And I said so. Well. I was wrong. When the first miscarriage happened, the grief took me by surprise. How could I feel a sense of loss, when I am not the one biologically carrying the baby? Yet, that sense of loss was there. And it was then I realized, my wife was right -- we got pregnant. This was more than biology. While my wife's body was starting to change in obvious ways, more subtly, so was my role. It wasn't just my wife's body changing to accommodate a growing body, but we together as a family was changing to accommodate a child, and that include changes with me. Well before the birth of the child, I was already a father. When the fetus died, that loss as a father is real, and so is the grief that goes with it. When my wife's body expels the corpse, that's a birth. And before the birth, there was a death. When the fetus dies in the uterus, current medical practices won't induce that birth without a medical reason, so the mother will carry the dead child until her body naturally gives birth to it. For her, she's carrying that reminder for at least a few days. As the father, there may be some biological distance from there, but this is part of what the family experiences together. My wife and I ended up doing a small funeral and wake. We named the baby, buried it on our lands. Funerals don't help the dead; it's in honoring the dead that funerals help those who live on. OP, if you are reading this: You are already a father, even if you have yet to hold your child in your arms. And, the next major milestone is viability. Your wife probably knows which week that will be. This is the period in development that the child has a shot of staying alive even if not carried to full term. In between conception and birth are also check ups your wife will go through, including an organ scan and the glucose tests.