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Parenting is, in my experience, quite a bit like taking care of a drunk person who very slowly sobers up over several years. The internet is generally a terrib
by abstractbill 4y ago
Parenting is, in my experience, quite a bit like taking care of a drunk person who very slowly sobers up over several years.
The internet is generally a terrible place to get parenting advice/support/etc from. For some reason it's a topic that brings out the most judgemental in people.
Parents of one child are often the worst to talk to. They have figured out what works for their one kid, and are quite unaware that it doesn't generalize at all.
Mothers will (usually) feel instant love for their new baby. Fathers will often not, and it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking there must be something wrong with you for that. There isn't, it's all just hormones. Wait, and those feelings will come over time.
I think that's all I've got. Good luck!
- config_yml 4y agoI actually read life changing advice here on HN regarding putting my kids to sleep. Thanks @reitanqild
- shrikant 4y ago> Parents of one child are often the worst to talk to. They have figured out what works for their one kid, and are quite unaware that it doesn't generalize at all. Parent of one child checking in -- strongly agree with you! I generally phrase myself very carefully around newer parents to avoid sounding like I'm giving general advice, and stress that I'm only talking about my experience with my kid -- and also, crucially, only when my thoughts on the matter are solicited. The super judgey, sanctimonious tones of similar one-child parents who have everything figured out with their ONE SINGLE DATA POINT is really grating, and I try to steer the conversation away from there right away.