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> It's by far the easiest way to make friends But I generally have nothing in common with the people I work with. I'm friends with people who share my world o

> It's by far the easiest way to make friends But I generally have nothing in common with the people I work with. I'm friends with people who share my world outlook, my moral and philosophical and aesthetic views, and there's no correlation between that and working with people. > Friend just means someone you have established a platonic relationship with right here right now. NO, that's not friend, FFS! That's an acquaintance or a coworker. Don't get me wrong - I'm a very sociable guy, I love hanging out with people, but I only have a few actual _friends_. > Some of the commenters describe a friend as someone who will maintain a connection with you no matter the circumstance (loss of job, moving to a new city etc) > I believe that is an unrealistic expectation. I'm sorry, but if you leave a job and lose all your connection with someone, _you were never friends._ I moved to a new continent in 2016 and I'm still in touch with my small group of actual friends, and I even made two more here.

pxue 4y ago
OK. i'll give another example. I played WoW for a good 8 years everyday through high school and college, became great friends with some of the people I played the game with. When I finished school, I hung up my WoW character and said good bye to my friends in the game. Although I no longer keep in touch with any of them, those were some of the best 8 years of my life and I am truly fond of the memories I made playing the game and working together. Is that not the same as a work place?
- TheCleric 4y ago
  I think the larger point is if you can walk away from a relationship after 8 years without an attempt to keep in touch, you're not friends.
  - StopHammoTime 4y ago
    +1. I have a group chat with my wow friends and we have been mostly connected (with some brief periods after Cataclysm where everyone stopped playing) for almost 15 years now. We’ve had in-person meetups and I have a solid conversation with them at least once a week on voice.
  - p1esk 4y ago
    What is your definition of a friend?
- JohnFen 4y ago
  > Is that not the same as a work place? No. In the workplace, you have to accomplish stuff every day of suffer serious consequences. You spend 8 hours a day with your coworkers, sure, but that time is not spent socializing. You're under the gun to produce. In a game (or other recreational activity), none of that is true. They are inherently social activities. You can get to know each other, you are at play. It's a very, very different thing.

pxue 4y ago

OK. i'll give another example. I played WoW for a good 8 years everyday through high school and college, became great friends with some of the people I played the game with. When I finished school, I hung up my WoW character and said good bye to my friends in the game. Although I no longer keep in touch with any of them, those were some of the best 8 years of my life and I am truly fond of the memories I made playing the game and working together. Is that not the same as a work place?

TheCleric 4y ago
I think the larger point is if you can walk away from a relationship after 8 years without an attempt to keep in touch, you're not friends.
- StopHammoTime 4y ago
  +1. I have a group chat with my wow friends and we have been mostly connected (with some brief periods after Cataclysm where everyone stopped playing) for almost 15 years now. We’ve had in-person meetups and I have a solid conversation with them at least once a week on voice.
- p1esk 4y ago
  What is your definition of a friend?
JohnFen 4y ago
> Is that not the same as a work place? No. In the workplace, you have to accomplish stuff every day of suffer serious consequences. You spend 8 hours a day with your coworkers, sure, but that time is not spent socializing. You're under the gun to produce. In a game (or other recreational activity), none of that is true. They are inherently social activities. You can get to know each other, you are at play. It's a very, very different thing.