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From home is amazing for those with a family. I no longer lose an hour to commute. I see my family more. I have third places (eg not work or home) that revolve

From home is amazing for those with a family. I no longer lose an hour to commute. I see my family more. I have third places (eg not work or home) that revolve around team sports for the kids. Some tech friends have made slack groups for a few topics and those often end up with meetings at bars or peoples homes. Honest it is great and I’ve never been more productive. I definitely do not need the semi fulfilling work environment which is a poor replacement for these much more meaningful connections. Honestly if you do long for work, I suggest trying to find peer groups instead. You can be more honest and you wouldn’t lose friends to a layoff, etc.

jwestbury 4y ago
> Honestly if you do long for work, I suggest trying to find peer groups instead. You can be more honest and you wouldn’t lose friends to a layoff, etc. Fair, but -- anecdotally, I'm an introvert with fairly limited social needs. In-office socialisation meets those needs quite well, especially as I'm married and have socialisation at home sorted. I also suffer from an anxiety disorder, and the _necessary_ nature of interaction in the office works out great for me -- because "find[ing] peer groups" is quite a big ask, between the anxiety and the social energy expended in doing so. I worked at a fully-remote company in 2021 and 2022, and it was great, but I'm under no illusions that my experience would be replicated elsewhere. I was on a team with strong social elements, and I had weekly 1:1s with teammates which generally took the form of general chit-chat rather than work-related discussion. Now, I'm back in the office at a new place, enjoying the limited -- but built-in -- social interaction, and not really feeling the need for anything else. I don't like the commute, but oh well. Obviously, this is all specific to me -- but insisting that your own preferences are universal is wrong-headed.

jwestbury 4y ago

> Honestly if you do long for work, I suggest trying to find peer groups instead. You can be more honest and you wouldn’t lose friends to a layoff, etc. Fair, but -- anecdotally, I'm an introvert with fairly limited social needs. In-office socialisation meets those needs quite well, especially as I'm married and have socialisation at home sorted. I also suffer from an anxiety disorder, and the _necessary_ nature of interaction in the office works out great for me -- because "find[ing] peer groups" is quite a big ask, between the anxiety and the social energy expended in doing so. I worked at a fully-remote company in 2021 and 2022, and it was great, but I'm under no illusions that my experience would be replicated elsewhere. I was on a team with strong social elements, and I had weekly 1:1s with teammates which generally took the form of general chit-chat rather than work-related discussion. Now, I'm back in the office at a new place, enjoying the limited -- but built-in -- social interaction, and not really feeling the need for anything else. I don't like the commute, but oh well. Obviously, this is all specific to me -- but insisting that your own preferences are universal is wrong-headed.