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Why do people view relationships and dating as some kind of optimization game where the only goal is to maximize some reward function, and assume that everyone
by felurx 4y ago
Why do people view relationships and dating as some kind of optimization game where the only goal is to maximize some reward function, and assume that everyone does the same and also that every woman wants a rich guy?
Reading texts like this doesn't just creep me the hell out, I'm also just... confused. Are love, connection, an ability to be a functional family (with or without children) not a thing anyone thinks about in optimization game world? What's the good in having a "useful" partner who you'll just end up not enjoying life together with?
Maybe that's just me being young and inexperienced (tm), but how about finding someone who you are on a wavelength with?
- willcipriano 4y agoAble to provide doesn't mean rich. Women have a lot of choice and a husband that shares your love for volleyball probably isn't worth living paycheck to paycheck for the rest life vs a husband who hates volleyball but isn't chronically unemployed. Most of the surface level first date things young people think are important (hobbies, music even politics) aren't really at all in the scheme of things, your tastes will change and converge over time.