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> It's funny how people (in this thread and in general when the topic comes) find infuriating the idea of making friends or just socialize at work I have yet t
by Volundr 4y ago
> It's funny how people (in this thread and in general when the topic comes) find infuriating the idea of making friends or just socialize at work
I have yet to see someone find this idea "infuriating". What people find infuriating is people who want to drag everyone else back to the office so they can pretend we are friends.
> most friendships starts because some people happen to spend 8h/day at the same school/university.
"Most" feels very strong here. I have exactly 2 friends I am still in touch with from high school, unless you count social media connections. None from college, but admittedly, that was a pretty isolating time in my life due to the combined demands of work and school. Anecdata, but looking at my friend group, I'd say this is pretty representative. Which is a perfect example of why I advocate strongly for finding friends outside work. Turns out "we were forced into the same building" just isn't the basis for a lasting relationship people hope it is, and these often dry up when the constraint is removed.
- watwut 4y agoI did find it annoying. The most annoying thing is I seen people doing then being treated as some kind of hard worker - but they were not. They did not produced more or anything. They just spent s lot of time socializing. And if you want to compete, you then have to stay late and move your socialization to work too. Which has obvious impact on spouse kids and genuine friendships outside of work. I would not mind it, if people socializing in work would not pretended their socialization is work.