The word "discussing" is doing a lot of work there and does nothing to distinguish it from condescension. Knowing something is one thing, being nice about it is

The word "discussing" is doing a lot of work there and does nothing to distinguish it from condescension. Knowing something is one thing, being nice about it is quite another. Opposing them with a "but," like "hey that just goes with the territory," is not actually addressing the issue.