Great article, I like the thought here. I've fallen for this myself, trying to "teach by asking questions", but in reality just come off as patronizing or disre

Great article, I like the thought here. I've fallen for this myself, trying to "teach by asking questions", but in reality just come off as patronizing or disrespectful to your counterparty. That kind of thing is a lot more suited for a discussion where it's legitimately important that someone come to the conclusion for themselves (eg, a political argument). A code review is different, both parties already have an implicit obligation to be receptive and open to feedback. You can be direct, and talk somewhere else about the "grand lesson" if you want.