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This comment is quite demeaning to women's intelligence. There is no reason for a woman to consider that emotional openness on the side of her husband is an ind
by BazookaMusic 4y ago
This comment is quite demeaning to women's intelligence. There is no reason for a woman to consider that emotional openness on the side of her husband is an indication that their family won't survive.
Crying is an expression of bottled up emotions, not an acceptance of defeat. Someone can cry and be invigorated to try harder to deal with their problems or they can cry but still be supportive to their spouse and provide emotional stability.
Womens' reactions are dependent upon their personality, their values, their view of the other person, the environment, their current emotional state, their biology and a lot of other factors at any given moment. This explains the fact that some people in this thread talk about how their crying led to more fulfilling relationships why others talk about break ups and loss of trust.
Even the point about children is completely arbitrary. Will children feel that their family won't survive due to their father crying about a lost relative? Doesn't it depend on their age? Furthermore, children need to see that their parents are humans and how to express their emotions. The alternative is that they find more indirect ways to do that like alcoholism, abuse, self-harm, extreme escapism and many other banes of today's society.
- isthisthingon99 4y ago[flagged]
- BazookaMusic 4y agoI'm not a man, but you are obviously looking for opinions validating yours, not to actually listen to women.
- isthisthingon99 4y agoYou didn't say you're a woman either and you write like a man.
- isthisthingon99 4y agoSo are you a woman then?
- dang 4y agoPersonal attacks will get you banned here, so please don't post like this. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html Edit: you've broken the site guidelines so badly that I've banned the account. Please see https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34669955 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34669955.