> I am asking about lifelong habits that can *make people fall in love with you* It's official! People here dont even read past the title! "I feel like I'm tak

> I am asking about lifelong habits that can *make people fall in love with you* It's official! People here dont even read past the title! "I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!" But yeah, you may have unnecessarily low self esteem to think you need to make someone love you. Stop forcing it like it's something you are owed. It is lucky to find someone who loves you. Treat it with the respect it deserves and it should follow naturally from there. Treat it like a game and you will always lose. More practically, (assuming American norms, hetero-male-ish situation), - learn to play your favorite song on guitar. playing music can be a powerful way to communicate emotion when you lack the confidence to be emotional otherwise. - study classic standup comedy like Carlin or Robin Williams. Comedy helps us relate to each other. - practice good self care. being alone doesnt have to be lonely or miserable. - if you have trouble being present with people, consider talking to a therapist. The common theme is that there is very little you can do to directly make someone love you. But if you learn to love yourself, you will at least have some practice for if/when the real deal comes along.