I think it important first to entertain, for yourself, whether sexuality might be among the most poorly developed, poorly studied and poorly understood facets o

I think it important first to entertain, for yourself, whether sexuality might be among the most poorly developed, poorly studied and poorly understood facets of humanity. Then consider the deep implications of that. You as an HN reader I assume are intellectually-minded and tend to pursue subjects more deeply than most. If that’s the case, and if that’s an approach you’d likely take in learning about and experiencing a better ‘love life’, then you may be best off seeing that as a quest or artistic endeavour rather than a pursuit for existing answers. Based on your question, and specifically the wording of your question, you’ll need to form a personal ‘framework’ for yourself. I think the formula is thus: Read widely and off the beaten path. Evaluate your inclinations and behaviour in relation to others in a wide variety of intimate situations and in relation to what you want. Engage in sexual situations with others who seem to navigate sexuality well for themselves; ask questions and observe.