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I am “above 35-ish” and have kids, and I disagree. Yes, jobs are stressful and demand energy, but they shouldn’t demand so much energy that a person is unable t

I am “above 35-ish” and have kids, and I disagree. Yes, jobs are stressful and demand energy, but they shouldn’t demand so much energy that a person is unable to do anything enjoyable on the weekends or pick a night each week to go out with friends. If a job becomes so draining that it leaves no energy for anything other than work and chores, you might be describing more of a burn out scenario. Either than or you have a toxic 70-hour per week job. Either way, I’d encourage you to reject this experience as “normal” and take a deep, hard look at what you can change or other jobs that might be better. Life is too short to spend it on a job that leaves you lifeless.

coldtea 4y ago
>I am “above 35-ish” and have kids, and I disagree. Yes, jobs are stressful and demand energy, but they shouldn’t demand so much energy that a person is unable to do anything enjoyable on the weekends or pick a night each week to go out with friends. Some people have more energy naturally (some, for explanaible reasons: e.g. obese people have less energy to be that kinetic, same for depressed people, but some people also due to their genetics). And, of course, some people have easier jobs, or like their jobs more, or don't have to deal with BS at their jobs or family life as much. Or have small commutes, enough salary not to have money stress, and several other factors. Some or all of which might include you, and place you I'd say in an outlier category. I'd bet the more universal "35 with job and kids" experience is not much energy and doing fun stuff around town. >Life is too short to spend it on a job that leaves you lifeless Yes, but is still long enough to risk spending it homeless, divorced, or with hungry kids. Especially as not all industries and skills are in high demand, and not all locations have jobs easy to come by. And not everybody has a cushion of money to spend months looking for a new job they'd like more, especially with rent, kids, and bills running...

coldtea 4y ago

>I am “above 35-ish” and have kids, and I disagree. Yes, jobs are stressful and demand energy, but they shouldn’t demand so much energy that a person is unable to do anything enjoyable on the weekends or pick a night each week to go out with friends. Some people have more energy naturally (some, for explanaible reasons: e.g. obese people have less energy to be that kinetic, same for depressed people, but some people also due to their genetics). And, of course, some people have easier jobs, or like their jobs more, or don't have to deal with BS at their jobs or family life as much. Or have small commutes, enough salary not to have money stress, and several other factors. Some or all of which might include you, and place you I'd say in an outlier category. I'd bet the more universal "35 with job and kids" experience is not much energy and doing fun stuff around town. >Life is too short to spend it on a job that leaves you lifeless Yes, but is still long enough to risk spending it homeless, divorced, or with hungry kids. Especially as not all industries and skills are in high demand, and not all locations have jobs easy to come by. And not everybody has a cushion of money to spend months looking for a new job they'd like more, especially with rent, kids, and bills running...