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See my other post, but for many people, "do interesting things on weekends" is a fantasy for at least a specific period of their life that teens tend to comment

See my other post, but for many people, "do interesting things on weekends" is a fantasy for at least a specific period of their life that teens tend to comment/judge upon. You work 9-10 hours a day, you commute another 1-2, you pickup your kids after work/school and feed them and get them to bed; and weekend is about actually making connections with your kids and keeping them alive and healthy and taking them to their playdates and activities (not that you can't participate but THAT is not what'll make you seem cool to teenagers:), and then trying to catch up on stuff (impossible!) like fix up the leaky roof and vacuum the living room and wash the dishes and take car for maintenance and go to the doctor since your body is increasingly giving up and catch up with work because your kid was sick two days this week and maybe even get some sleep since your kids alternately wake up every bloody night at 1 3 5am to go potty / vomit / need water / are hungry / are scared / is it morning yet :D I took 2 months unpaid paternity because I'm lucky and privileged that way, and let me tell you how much more interesting and outgoing and fun and exciting and involved I was :->

PragmaticPulp 4y ago
> and weekend is about actually making connections with your kids and keeping them alive and healthy and taking them to their playdates and activities I’m in the exact situation you describe (mid-career, kids at home, demanding job). These weekend activities are still an opportunity to have fun and do interesting things. Do interesting things with your kids! The weekend may not be the same opportunity to go out and do an unplanned adventure into the mountains or travel spontaneously, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go do something fun with your kids. It gets better as you adapt and figure out parenthood. It also doesn’t last for very long, all things considered, so make the most of the time you have with your young kids.
- NikolaNovak 4y ago
  Oh agreed, but there's a few lenses the article brings up and one of them is "would teenager find it boring", and that's both a very high and very specific litmus test. Taking my 4 and 2 year old's skating for the first time last weekend was... Exciting and interesting to say the least! :-) but would still be perceived as boring to average teenager, as opposed to the time I went night time snow car rallying etc:-D

PragmaticPulp 4y ago

> and weekend is about actually making connections with your kids and keeping them alive and healthy and taking them to their playdates and activities I’m in the exact situation you describe (mid-career, kids at home, demanding job). These weekend activities are still an opportunity to have fun and do interesting things. Do interesting things with your kids! The weekend may not be the same opportunity to go out and do an unplanned adventure into the mountains or travel spontaneously, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go do something fun with your kids. It gets better as you adapt and figure out parenthood. It also doesn’t last for very long, all things considered, so make the most of the time you have with your young kids.

NikolaNovak 4y ago
Oh agreed, but there's a few lenses the article brings up and one of them is "would teenager find it boring", and that's both a very high and very specific litmus test. Taking my 4 and 2 year old's skating for the first time last weekend was... Exciting and interesting to say the least! :-) but would still be perceived as boring to average teenager, as opposed to the time I went night time snow car rallying etc:-D