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> If an individual lacked the necessary comrades in their youth they might actually be incapable of forming proper relationships, at all. I think the struggle
by DoingIsLearning 4y ago
> If an individual lacked the necessary comrades in their youth they might actually be incapable of forming proper relationships, at all.
I think the struggle for a lot of adults is not in the interaction or in the start but in the maintaining relationships.
This is easy in school and university because of the free time and co-location, the challenge is to do it when we all go our separate ways.
In that sense I do feel like I lack the skills and the mental CRM system to keep walking those friendship footpaths before all the weeds and time make these footpaths slowly vanish.
- mach1ne 4y agoSure, but I think that's a different kind of loneliness than that of lonely people who have practically never had a proper friendship in their lives.
- RamblingCTO 4y agoThat's a point the book I mentioned actually touches. We're not in tune with our needs and don't work on our problems, so we focus on work, social media etc. But we lack the focus on what makes life worth living. It's human connection, being in tune with yourself, nature. You have to make the time to focus on these things. We are very easily distracted by non-important things. We have to put in the work to stay connected (to others and ourselves) and get our needs met, simple as that. So what I'm saying is: not sure it's a skill problem (it might be if we're talking about staying connected to what you need) but a societal problem