No flirting doesn't begin with hitting on someone. It's a game two people play. They edge closer to hitting on each other. Each time gauging the response. If th

No flirting doesn't begin with hitting on someone. It's a game two people play. They edge closer to hitting on each other. Each time gauging the response. If the other person is not playing you'll never reach the point where you're hitting on them. Neither party needs to lose face and it can simply be a polite chat. Some people just seem to know how to do this. For others its near impossible. I'm in the others group. When a girl was flirting with me in the past I sent messages to her that I wasn't interested. As I had no idea how to play that game. I didn't even know it was going on. Then when I was interested in a girl I tended to creep her out by being too awkward too direct. Even when I asked my wife out she almost dropped the phone as I shocked her by being too direct. Luckily we'd been friends for years and she knew me well enough to say yes.