Without breaking confidentiality, this is not my experience. That isn't to say it doesn't happen - states are very different, but at least in the states and ar

Without breaking confidentiality, this is not my experience. That isn't to say it doesn't happen - states are very different, but at least in the states and areas i've seen it (CA, NY, MD, DC, VA), judges were pretty aggressive at telling people to stop wasting their time and mediate it out instead. Again, I can even buy that you may see differences between say NYC and Albany, but at least what i saw was pretty consistent. The family law judges did not have a lot of tolerance for adults pissing on each other, and made it clear they wanted parties to resolve most things without them.