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Device use is where smoking was 50 years ago. Everyone does it, most people kinda know it's bad for you. It's like eating candy instead of actual meals, doesn't

by sdwr 4y ago

Device use is where smoking was 50 years ago. Everyone does it, most people kinda know it's bad for you. It's like eating candy instead of actual meals, doesn't have the balanced macros and vitamins of proper engagement+interactions. A kid who doesn't spend 4-6 hours a day on a phone, and has some real-world stuff to stay busy with, is going to be miles ahead of everyone else in 10 years.

_nalply 4y ago
> A kid who doesn't sped 4-6 hours a day on a phone ... Amen. You need to compromise. What I do: - No TV at all (except on holidays then they can watch as long as they want), without TV it is easier - When coming home we all, parents included, don't use technology for 10 minutes, this is like a time-out, sometimes the children started to play and don't need technology - Sometimes don't use technology the whole time, for example when going away, the parents also leave their cell phones at home - Sometimes let the children be bored, boredom is sometimes a great source of creativity - Sometimes let them use technology as long as they want so that they learn to feel what this means - Friendly ask them what they are doing - One-click buy or similar things are a way to lose money - Try to create incentives, like: you can stay at home alone, but today nobody is using any technology, you can read books or go with us - Be sincere, open and friendly and admit that you yourself are fallible, alway try to discuss and find a common understanding - Try to influence, like gaming is better than watching Youtube, some Youtube channels are better than others, and so on The idea is: Sooner or later your children will have contact with the manipulative virtual world outside. You can't avoid it. Try to steer somewhat, but you will sometimes fail. Accept your failings. Stay relaxed. Be authentic. Good luck!

by sdwr 4y ago

_nalply 4y ago

> A kid who doesn't sped 4-6 hours a day on a phone ... Amen. You need to compromise. What I do: - No TV at all (except on holidays then they can watch as long as they want), without TV it is easier - When coming home we all, parents included, don't use technology for 10 minutes, this is like a time-out, sometimes the children started to play and don't need technology - Sometimes don't use technology the whole time, for example when going away, the parents also leave their cell phones at home - Sometimes let the children be bored, boredom is sometimes a great source of creativity - Sometimes let them use technology as long as they want so that they learn to feel what this means - Friendly ask them what they are doing - One-click buy or similar things are a way to lose money - Try to create incentives, like: you can stay at home alone, but today nobody is using any technology, you can read books or go with us - Be sincere, open and friendly and admit that you yourself are fallible, alway try to discuss and find a common understanding - Try to influence, like gaming is better than watching Youtube, some Youtube channels are better than others, and so on The idea is: Sooner or later your children will have contact with the manipulative virtual world outside. You can't avoid it. Try to steer somewhat, but you will sometimes fail. Accept your failings. Stay relaxed. Be authentic. Good luck!