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I really thought I hated spaghetti growing up. My parents would boil the noodles and then pour room temp sauce from a jar at the table individually. It was ined

by donatj 4y ago

I really thought I hated spaghetti growing up. My parents would boil the noodles and then pour room temp sauce from a jar at the table individually. It was inedible. I was visiting a friend and had it all cooked together in the pan for the first time and it was eye opening.

pmarreck 4y ago
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thiscatis 4y ago
Room temp sauce on cooked pasta?! Just gagged reading this.
- peteradio 4y ago
  clammy mouth noises
- yamtaddle 4y ago
  Can be the right thing to do—if it's not a red sauce. Pesto, oil-"sauces", that kind of thing.
  - pc86 4y ago
    That probably wouldn't be described as "inedible" then.
  - donatj 4y ago
    It was red sauce. Anything other than red sauce is too fancy for my parents. My wife and I always heat the pesto a little in the pan - is that not the right thing to do?
    - yamtaddle 4y ago
      Pesto burns really easily and its flavors after cooking are generally regarded as worse than when it's uncooked. Heating it a little probably doesn't hurt, but it's intended to be kind of a fresh sauce, so, little or no cooking. Doesn't come through as well with the jar stuff vs. home-made, but still.
- notadev 4y ago
  You should really check out /r/shittyfoodporn if you want to see just how much you can take.
- CBLT 4y ago
  I got through college on this, it actually wasn't that bad. I added little sauce (Most expensive part of the dish! I didn't buy cheap sauce.) and folded it into the boiling hot noodles immediately after draining. Brought the whole dish almost immediately to serving temperature, so I could eat right away instead of waiting for it to cool.
peteradio 4y ago
Can anyone recommend good books on PTSD for relief from reading about OPs childhood?
Spivak 4y ago
That's the spaghetti where the starches have curled back up and make it so the noodles and sauce are like oil and water. Ahh childhood.
gwbas1c 4y ago
One of the things I did my whole life was never criticize my mother's cooking. (She was a much better cook than me, especially her pasta sauce.) BUT: Once I started cooking I started coaching her back. Specifically, I taught her to defrost her burgers before grilling.
bityard 4y ago
This reminds me... My parents were on the lower end of rural middle-class so on the rare occasion we went to a restaurant, steak was avoided as the most expensive thing on the menu, and as kids, we didn't have the option of steak anyway. Our meats while growing up were mainly fish, chicken, pork, and hamburger. When I was a teen, my mom got a deal on a big box of steaks somehow and cooked them on the grill every other night for dinner. She made it sound like we were living like royalty but no matter what kind of sauces or seasonings I slathered on, they were always dry and tasteless. I voluntarily skipped a lot of dinners that summer and thought I just hated steak. In my mid-20s, I befriended a Brazilian. He invited my spouse and I over for a barbecue. When we got there, I found out the only thing going on the grill was steak, a.k.a. Brazilian Beef. Basically thick chunks of steak "marinated" in rock salt then cooked over open coals to sear the outside, but never long enough to get the inside more than medium-rare. I probably mentioned not caring for steak but he assured me I was going to like it. And wow, he was right. So tasty, so juicy. Decades later, I still make it every chance I get. My wife and I sometimes talk about how our parents basically ruined whole categories of food for us until we got out into the world and experienced (or learned for ourselves) how things were _supposed_ to be cooked.
- DanCarvajal 4y ago
  Growing up I went through the same thing and eventually talked to my mom about it and we came to the conclusion that it all went back to her parents who lived the Great Depression. When you grow up on Bread and Butter pickle sandwiches and then have industrialized food thrown at you post WWII you don't question it, but it has impacts on subsequent generations. Funny enough the other day I had a liverwurst sandwich, something my Grandmother would have easily recognized, except I bought it from a local whole animal butcher. What was once one of the cheapest forms of meat is now rare gourmet sandwich.
  - halkony 4y ago
    I've picked up on habits in my parents that resemble Great Depression era practices and their relationship with food is the most noticeable. Even my Dad who liked to cook as a hobby had very poor attention to detail when it came to quality. My mother basically made horribly seasoned slop and thought it was perfectly edible. My grandfather was extremely concerned with my mother having a full belly, probably at the cost of quality (a rational worldview when you've experienced starvation firsthand). At this point, when I meet people my age who describe themselves as "picky eaters" my internal response is "Your parents were probably just bad cooks." At least the experience taught me to take responsibility for what I put into my body.

by donatj 4y ago

pmarreck 4y ago

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thiscatis 4y ago

Room temp sauce on cooked pasta?! Just gagged reading this.

peteradio 4y ago
clammy mouth noises
yamtaddle 4y ago
Can be the right thing to do—if it's not a red sauce. Pesto, oil-"sauces", that kind of thing.
- pc86 4y ago
  That probably wouldn't be described as "inedible" then.
- donatj 4y ago
  It was red sauce. Anything other than red sauce is too fancy for my parents. My wife and I always heat the pesto a little in the pan - is that not the right thing to do?
  - yamtaddle 4y ago
    Pesto burns really easily and its flavors after cooking are generally regarded as worse than when it's uncooked. Heating it a little probably doesn't hurt, but it's intended to be kind of a fresh sauce, so, little or no cooking. Doesn't come through as well with the jar stuff vs. home-made, but still.
notadev 4y ago
You should really check out /r/shittyfoodporn if you want to see just how much you can take.
CBLT 4y ago
I got through college on this, it actually wasn't that bad. I added little sauce (Most expensive part of the dish! I didn't buy cheap sauce.) and folded it into the boiling hot noodles immediately after draining. Brought the whole dish almost immediately to serving temperature, so I could eat right away instead of waiting for it to cool.

peteradio 4y ago

Can anyone recommend good books on PTSD for relief from reading about OPs childhood?

Spivak 4y ago

That's the spaghetti where the starches have curled back up and make it so the noodles and sauce are like oil and water. Ahh childhood.

gwbas1c 4y ago

One of the things I did my whole life was never criticize my mother's cooking. (She was a much better cook than me, especially her pasta sauce.) BUT: Once I started cooking I started coaching her back. Specifically, I taught her to defrost her burgers before grilling.

bityard 4y ago

This reminds me... My parents were on the lower end of rural middle-class so on the rare occasion we went to a restaurant, steak was avoided as the most expensive thing on the menu, and as kids, we didn't have the option of steak anyway. Our meats while growing up were mainly fish, chicken, pork, and hamburger. When I was a teen, my mom got a deal on a big box of steaks somehow and cooked them on the grill every other night for dinner. She made it sound like we were living like royalty but no matter what kind of sauces or seasonings I slathered on, they were always dry and tasteless. I voluntarily skipped a lot of dinners that summer and thought I just hated steak. In my mid-20s, I befriended a Brazilian. He invited my spouse and I over for a barbecue. When we got there, I found out the only thing going on the grill was steak, a.k.a. Brazilian Beef. Basically thick chunks of steak "marinated" in rock salt then cooked over open coals to sear the outside, but never long enough to get the inside more than medium-rare. I probably mentioned not caring for steak but he assured me I was going to like it. And wow, he was right. So tasty, so juicy. Decades later, I still make it every chance I get. My wife and I sometimes talk about how our parents basically ruined whole categories of food for us until we got out into the world and experienced (or learned for ourselves) how things were _supposed_ to be cooked.

DanCarvajal 4y ago
Growing up I went through the same thing and eventually talked to my mom about it and we came to the conclusion that it all went back to her parents who lived the Great Depression. When you grow up on Bread and Butter pickle sandwiches and then have industrialized food thrown at you post WWII you don't question it, but it has impacts on subsequent generations. Funny enough the other day I had a liverwurst sandwich, something my Grandmother would have easily recognized, except I bought it from a local whole animal butcher. What was once one of the cheapest forms of meat is now rare gourmet sandwich.
- halkony 4y ago
  I've picked up on habits in my parents that resemble Great Depression era practices and their relationship with food is the most noticeable. Even my Dad who liked to cook as a hobby had very poor attention to detail when it came to quality. My mother basically made horribly seasoned slop and thought it was perfectly edible. My grandfather was extremely concerned with my mother having a full belly, probably at the cost of quality (a rational worldview when you've experienced starvation firsthand). At this point, when I meet people my age who describe themselves as "picky eaters" my internal response is "Your parents were probably just bad cooks." At least the experience taught me to take responsibility for what I put into my body.