No kids of my own, but I grew up with a big family. This means I got to reflect on the various stages of other people's development at every point in my own dev

No kids of my own, but I grew up with a big family. This means I got to reflect on the various stages of other people's development at every point in my own development. The clearest pattern to emerge was that negative personality traits in the parents led to bad outcomes for the kids. Nobody is perfect, but much of this can and should be resolved before starting a family. In early childhood they imitate you. Then they give you (sometimes very harsh) feedback about what's wrong with your way. Then they pick and choose what to imitate from their peers. All your questions are concerned with what happens in that later stage when they choose to follow their peers. No offense, but I think you probably already know where you're at with own personal growth and don't need your kids to tell you a few years from now? Don't overthink it, and like others have said you don't have as much control as you think beyond your natural charisma and success in life otherwise.