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Something perhaps minor and obvious to most folks, but I started to say nothing when I never had an answer, or at least initially. I found this played out in ve
by jossclimb 4y ago
Something perhaps minor and obvious to most folks, but I started to say nothing when I never had an answer, or at least initially. I found this played out in very interesting ways, quite often I get into conversations around what is the best approach to take for some engineering problem and someone would make a claim, that did not sound right or even plain did not make any sense, but my imposter syndrome liked to paint everyone as smarter than me, so I would feel I had to speak to claim I understood what they were saying. I started to let five seconds tick by and tell myself its ok if I don't have an answer. What I found what would happen is the other individual would get enough room to reflect over what they just stated and the attention fell directly onto them. They would invariably start to discredit or defend what they had just claimed, rather than diffuse it for them.