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In all honesty, if these things had happened to me, I would've kept quiet since most people won't believe a 20-something male. I was in high school when two of

In all honesty, if these things had happened to me, I would've kept quiet since most people won't believe a 20-something male. I was in high school when two of the girls (who were considered hot in our class) grouped me and rubbed their breasts against my back. When I told one of the lady teachers about the issue, she thought I was crazy and making things up.

ipaddr 4y ago
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- cjp1032 4y ago
  This is a terrible take. With your thought process anyone who is viewed as attractive is able to criminally interact with someone and, rather than viewed in a criminal/negative light, it should be taken as a positive experience?
  - ipaddr 4y ago
    Many young men back in my day were seeking an experience similiar to that, I'm wondering if things have changed. It's unwanted sexual contact that may be criminal not all sexual contact. It's someone you view as attractive not anyone who could be considered attractive.
- shycha20 4y ago
  I didn't really know what to make of it at the time, and my first thought was this is wrong. Due to my low self-esteem and lack of confidence, I was socially awkward in high school, and those girls took advantage of my position since they knew I would not take any action. At university, I told a guy who was close to me this story and he responded with "did you enjoy it though?" I replied hell no. Imagine living through your toughest times. Imagine only eating once to save some money, being bullied constantly because you can't afford good clothes, shoes, and some girls trying to take advantage of your situation. But it's not the end of the world, and life goes on.
  - ipaddr 4y ago
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- at_a_remove 4y ago
  Sexual teasing can be done in a very hostile manner. You've got a great example here: two against one and groping first. This wasn't done out of any desire for him, it was a dominance move to show what they can get away with. Had he responded, he could have been struck down, and rather harshly as I think we're all well aware. It's taunting, essentially.
- sonofhans 4y ago
  Ooh, this is gross. OP is describing sexual assault and you’re asking if they liked it. Your experiences are not the point.
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lambdasquirrel 4y ago
I’ve had similar issues, getting people to believe that I’ve been continuing to deal with stalking / harassment issues in dance. So I get you ;). I mean in dance, you hear about higher-level male dancers getting unwanted attention despite being in long-term monogamous relationships. Maybe in a hundred years, we’ll realize that people are people, and will weaponize / abuse sexuality according to their role / gender.
- noobermin 4y ago
  > Maybe in a hundred years, we’ll realize that people are people, and will weaponize / abuse sexuality according to their role / gender. What does this mean exactly? That you hope that in a hundred years people will still abuse each other sexually but due to a social role based view of gender?

ipaddr 4y ago

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cjp1032 4y ago
This is a terrible take. With your thought process anyone who is viewed as attractive is able to criminally interact with someone and, rather than viewed in a criminal/negative light, it should be taken as a positive experience?
- ipaddr 4y ago
  Many young men back in my day were seeking an experience similiar to that, I'm wondering if things have changed. It's unwanted sexual contact that may be criminal not all sexual contact. It's someone you view as attractive not anyone who could be considered attractive.
shycha20 4y ago
I didn't really know what to make of it at the time, and my first thought was this is wrong. Due to my low self-esteem and lack of confidence, I was socially awkward in high school, and those girls took advantage of my position since they knew I would not take any action. At university, I told a guy who was close to me this story and he responded with "did you enjoy it though?" I replied hell no. Imagine living through your toughest times. Imagine only eating once to save some money, being bullied constantly because you can't afford good clothes, shoes, and some girls trying to take advantage of your situation. But it's not the end of the world, and life goes on.
- ipaddr 4y ago
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at_a_remove 4y ago
Sexual teasing can be done in a very hostile manner. You've got a great example here: two against one and groping first. This wasn't done out of any desire for him, it was a dominance move to show what they can get away with. Had he responded, he could have been struck down, and rather harshly as I think we're all well aware. It's taunting, essentially.
sonofhans 4y ago
Ooh, this is gross. OP is describing sexual assault and you’re asking if they liked it. Your experiences are not the point.
- ipaddr 4y ago
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lambdasquirrel 4y ago

I’ve had similar issues, getting people to believe that I’ve been continuing to deal with stalking / harassment issues in dance. So I get you ;). I mean in dance, you hear about higher-level male dancers getting unwanted attention despite being in long-term monogamous relationships. Maybe in a hundred years, we’ll realize that people are people, and will weaponize / abuse sexuality according to their role / gender.

noobermin 4y ago
> Maybe in a hundred years, we’ll realize that people are people, and will weaponize / abuse sexuality according to their role / gender. What does this mean exactly? That you hope that in a hundred years people will still abuse each other sexually but due to a social role based view of gender?