I think this gets at the crux of the thing I'm talking about. Some people, compatibility is the most important thing. They want someone they can do everything

I think this gets at the crux of the thing I'm talking about. Some people, compatibility is the most important thing. They want someone they can do everything together with, so they have to have very similar interests and day-to-day wants. For me and my partner, we both wanted someone who wanted similar long-term things and were working hard to accomplish those things. We had very little activities in common when we started dating. I like videogames and DnD, she has very little interest in either. But we've found other things that we love to do together instead of only just adopting the things we both already liked.