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I mean my brother is OCD and complains about the "mental load" of sterilizing every surface I touch when I come over, but doesn't mean I should take on more res
by refurb 4y ago
I mean my brother is OCD and complains about the "mental load" of sterilizing every surface I touch when I come over, but doesn't mean I should take on more responsibility.
- themitigating 4y agoFalse comparison. That's between your brother and countertops. His situation is between himself and his wife. He's already involved
- refurb 4y agoNot sure if that changes anything, it's about "expectations of others". I've seen plenty of spouses complain of "mental load" and when you dig a bit further, it's micromanaging. My friend was happy to help organize after-school sports for their two kids. His wife didn't like the activities, the coaches or the timing, so took it over, then complained that "she has to do everything". If you want to delegate, then delegate. You don't get to complain about "mental load" if you can't let go.
- Jabbles 4y agoBut you could, right? You could acknowledge that your brother has a mental illness and try to accommodate him, by meeting somewhere else, or restricting yourself to single room in his house, or helping him clean. You don't have to, but it might be a kind thing to do.