As a gay man (who, fortunately, doesn't have any issue with finding partners for casual "stress relief"), I agree that this is a definite issue. It seems the w

As a gay man (who, fortunately, doesn't have any issue with finding partners for casual "stress relief"), I agree that this is a definite issue. It seems the world has moved on in many ways and traditional roles/barriers are being broken down, but unfortunately not so much for this topic. I look at hetero friends of mine and it still seems to be the same old rat-race for them. Men get treated as disposable resources when it comes to dating/relationships. Sure, not all men; if you're pretty or wealthy or otherwise "useful" you'll do fine. But it seems very one-sided in that women do not need to do all that much in order to be desirable to someone (though perhaps not desirable to the type of people they want to meet specifically). It really just makes me so glad to be gay, and so sad to see men treated like they have no worth; you do have worth, every man, every woman, and every person in between. It's also incredibly unfortunate that many of the traits exhibited by "men who work in technology" are generally not seen as desirable by many women. I count myself as incredibly fortunate that I can easily meet other men who are into the same things; the only downside is obviously that: * there are fewer gay men available compared to the hetero pool * some (a large number really) of hetero guys will get aggressive to the point of violence if you flirt with them, so it's still very important to sound it out/gaydar someone.