Seconded. Part of it is projecting confidence and communication skills. I knew in the back of my mind this was true, but it took me well over a decade (arguabl

Seconded. Part of it is projecting confidence and communication skills. I knew in the back of my mind this was true, but it took me well over a decade (arguably two) to actually learn. Part of it is how you talk to people, part of it is how well you can pick up on body language, hints, subtle social contexts. This is very very very important to women. It's a big red flag when a guy is as they might put it, "clueless." Meanwhile it's a frustrating experience not understanding what's going on for the guy. Dating aside, an empathetic listener who reads body language will usually be someone more engaging and engaged to interact with.