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I've observed it as well, and the truth is that attractiveness is just highly individual. And the guys they do think are attractive are often just their particu

I've observed it as well, and the truth is that attractiveness is just highly individual. And the guys they do think are attractive are often just their particular brand of 'cute' average guy who to my eyes as a non-attracted-to-men person don't look that much different than the previous 10 guys they swiped left on.

antisthenes 4y ago
> I've observed it as well, and the truth is that attractiveness is just highly individual The OkCupid data confirmed this is false. Top 20% of men receive the vast majority of female attention. The inverse of that is that the majority of women think that 80% of men are mostly unattractive or at least unattractive to them. This is about as far as you can get from just trying to sweep the stats aside with a "highly individual" comment.
- rngname22 4y ago
  Sorry but people quoting the OKCupid study always ignore the part of the study that isn't convenient to their narrative. The data shows men might rate women's attractiveness charitably, but they only messaged the most attractive 5s. But whom women messaged tells a different story. Women messaged more average-looking men and were less likely to message the most attractive men.
  - Manuel_D 4y ago
    These findings are replicated across many dating sites, not just okcupid. Here's the stats for Hinge: https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard... Examining messages is largely moot, because by the time two people have matched we've already filtered out a huge portion of potential partners.
  - OkayPhysicist 4y ago
    The even bigger takeaway from OKCupid's stats, IMO, was the fact that divisive profiles performed better than generally okay ones. People were more likely to actually engage with a match they found attractive, but other people didn't.
LorenPechtel 4y ago
There are broad patterns of agreement but individual differences also. The faces most people will find attractive can be identified, but you can't select a face everyone will find attractive.

antisthenes 4y ago

> I've observed it as well, and the truth is that attractiveness is just highly individual The OkCupid data confirmed this is false. Top 20% of men receive the vast majority of female attention. The inverse of that is that the majority of women think that 80% of men are mostly unattractive or at least unattractive to them. This is about as far as you can get from just trying to sweep the stats aside with a "highly individual" comment.

rngname22 4y ago
Sorry but people quoting the OKCupid study always ignore the part of the study that isn't convenient to their narrative. The data shows men might rate women's attractiveness charitably, but they only messaged the most attractive 5s. But whom women messaged tells a different story. Women messaged more average-looking men and were less likely to message the most attractive men.
- Manuel_D 4y ago
  These findings are replicated across many dating sites, not just okcupid. Here's the stats for Hinge: https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard... Examining messages is largely moot, because by the time two people have matched we've already filtered out a huge portion of potential partners.
- OkayPhysicist 4y ago
  The even bigger takeaway from OKCupid's stats, IMO, was the fact that divisive profiles performed better than generally okay ones. People were more likely to actually engage with a match they found attractive, but other people didn't.

LorenPechtel 4y ago

There are broad patterns of agreement but individual differences also. The faces most people will find attractive can be identified, but you can't select a face everyone will find attractive.