I've yet to find a guy who was worth dating that wasn't in a relationship if they wanted to be in one. I do know a lot of guys who struggle with the fact that

I've yet to find a guy who was worth dating that wasn't in a relationship if they wanted to be in one. I do know a lot of guys who struggle with the fact that the woman they're attracted to aren't to them. I definitely know a few women for whom that's true too, but it's mostly men, and generally younger ones. And so they quote that same 80/20 rule from Peterson, which has no data behind it beside one bad survey, and insist its society's fault. Meanwhile their Tinder profiles are just lists of all they things they demand from a partner – generally things they themselves won't provide. Which isn't to say the problem isn't real – it definitely is – but it seems like any "solution" is going to have start at either commercial ideas (sex work) or a cultural shift.