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Kids are good at it. Adults less so, because of… well, sex.

by gerad 4y ago

weatherlite 4y ago
Its also quite cultural. Its normal for men to hold hands when walking in India, Nepal for example. At first it looked ridiculous to me...having grown up since then I think its Western civilization that's a bit ridiculous in that aspect.
- dheera 4y ago
  Perhaps. But it's also "weird" that it only exists with same-sex. Why is it a cultural taboo for single men and single women to say, hold hands, if they aren't in a monogamous relationship with anyone else, and are doing so consensually? I feel like traditional culture is the only thing that says "you shouldn't do that", which seems equally ridiculous to me.
  - lotsofpulp 4y ago
    Because there is a potential underlying motive, and it presents danger for one of the parties due to them being physically weaker. The risk of sending (or the other party assuming) the wrong signal is probably not worth it.
    - dheera 4y ago
      > Because there is a potential underlying motive But that underlying motive could be mutual, it could not, the key is consensuality, at any point one party isn't on the same page they can and should say no, this applies to same-sex and opposite-sex configurations, no? > and it presents danger for one of the parties due to them being physically weaker That's also true of same-sex configurations, though.
      - lotsofpulp 4y ago
        > But that underlying motive could be mutual, it could not, the key is consensuality, at any point one party isn't on the same page they can and should say no, this applies to same-sex and opposite-sex configurations, no? Hence the purpose of flirting to ensure both are on the same page and accepting of the risks. Consensual-ity and motive may not be easy to objectively establish in the moment, so I am guessing this is one area where societies have evolved to play it safe. > That's also true of same-sex configurations, though. The low probability of this, as well as the relative strength differences between an average man and the weakest man versus an average man and an average woman make it not worth worrying about, evidently.

Kids are good at it. Adults less so, because of… well, sex.

by gerad 4y ago

Kids are good at it. Adults less so, because of… well, sex.

Its also quite cultural. Its normal for men to hold hands when walking in India, Nepal for example. At first it looked ridiculous to me...having grown up since then I think its Western civilization that's a bit ridiculous in that aspect.

dheera 4y ago
Perhaps. But it's also "weird" that it only exists with same-sex. Why is it a cultural taboo for single men and single women to say, hold hands, if they aren't in a monogamous relationship with anyone else, and are doing so consensually? I feel like traditional culture is the only thing that says "you shouldn't do that", which seems equally ridiculous to me.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago
  Because there is a potential underlying motive, and it presents danger for one of the parties due to them being physically weaker. The risk of sending (or the other party assuming) the wrong signal is probably not worth it.
  - dheera 4y ago
    > Because there is a potential underlying motive But that underlying motive could be mutual, it could not, the key is consensuality, at any point one party isn't on the same page they can and should say no, this applies to same-sex and opposite-sex configurations, no? > and it presents danger for one of the parties due to them being physically weaker That's also true of same-sex configurations, though.
    - lotsofpulp 4y ago
      > But that underlying motive could be mutual, it could not, the key is consensuality, at any point one party isn't on the same page they can and should say no, this applies to same-sex and opposite-sex configurations, no? Hence the purpose of flirting to ensure both are on the same page and accepting of the risks. Consensual-ity and motive may not be easy to objectively establish in the moment, so I am guessing this is one area where societies have evolved to play it safe. > That's also true of same-sex configurations, though. The low probability of this, as well as the relative strength differences between an average man and the weakest man versus an average man and an average woman make it not worth worrying about, evidently.