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> I would predict that being able to afford a nice apartment in a good area close to date locations will easily 10x your sex chances. This matches my experienc

> I would predict that being able to afford a nice apartment in a good area close to date locations will easily 10x your sex chances. This matches my experience. But overall, location is extremely important. I used to date quite a lot, and depending on the place, I could find dates extremely easily, or it could be virtually impossible. But one thing I understood after I turned 40. The number one criteria is age! It gets exponentially harder as years pass.

kragen 4y ago
What is your gender? I'm 46 and male, and more and more women (my preferred gender!) seem to be attracted to me over time, though surely at some point that trend will go into reverse. I've heard a lot of women around my age suffering from the opposite trend.
- matheusmoreira 4y ago
  I have the same experience. The older I get, the easier it seems.
- antisthenes 4y ago
  How old are the women that are attracted to you? Are they actually desirable partners?
  - kragen 4y ago
    Mostly 25–60? I mostly only notice the attraction state of the ones I see as desirable partners, though I've dated a few that turned out to be a very poor fit.
    - antisthenes 4y ago
      You do realize that aggregating women into the 25-60 range pretty much turns your data from anecdotal to outright useless? 25-35 range is vastly different from the 50-60 range, for quite obvious reasons.
      - kragen 4y ago
        There are lots and lots of vast differences among the different women who have been attracted to me over the years; age is just one of them, while others include national origin, educational attainment, socio-economic class, country of residence, pluriparity, conscientiousness, openness to experience, agreeability, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism, autism, height, weight, sexual orientation, political party alignment, favorite operating system, hair color, skin color, and religion. What's so special about their age to you? I don't think I have a sample size large enough to confidently discriminate among particular age groups' attraction to me. I'm not, like, a celebrity or something. Even if I did, I don't see how such a sample could avoid being far too biased to draw any useful conclusions from.
- mancerayder 4y ago
  Seconded. Part of it is projecting confidence and communication skills. I knew in the back of my mind this was true, but it took me well over a decade (arguably two) to actually learn. Part of it is how you talk to people, part of it is how well you can pick up on body language, hints, subtle social contexts. This is very very very important to women. It's a big red flag when a guy is as they might put it, "clueless." Meanwhile it's a frustrating experience not understanding what's going on for the guy. Dating aside, an empathetic listener who reads body language will usually be someone more engaging and engaged to interact with.

kragen 4y ago

What is your gender? I'm 46 and male, and more and more women (my preferred gender!) seem to be attracted to me over time, though surely at some point that trend will go into reverse. I've heard a lot of women around my age suffering from the opposite trend.

matheusmoreira 4y ago
I have the same experience. The older I get, the easier it seems.
antisthenes 4y ago
How old are the women that are attracted to you? Are they actually desirable partners?
- kragen 4y ago
  Mostly 25–60? I mostly only notice the attraction state of the ones I see as desirable partners, though I've dated a few that turned out to be a very poor fit.
  - antisthenes 4y ago
    You do realize that aggregating women into the 25-60 range pretty much turns your data from anecdotal to outright useless? 25-35 range is vastly different from the 50-60 range, for quite obvious reasons.
    - kragen 4y ago
      There are lots and lots of vast differences among the different women who have been attracted to me over the years; age is just one of them, while others include national origin, educational attainment, socio-economic class, country of residence, pluriparity, conscientiousness, openness to experience, agreeability, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism, autism, height, weight, sexual orientation, political party alignment, favorite operating system, hair color, skin color, and religion. What's so special about their age to you? I don't think I have a sample size large enough to confidently discriminate among particular age groups' attraction to me. I'm not, like, a celebrity or something. Even if I did, I don't see how such a sample could avoid being far too biased to draw any useful conclusions from.
mancerayder 4y ago
Seconded. Part of it is projecting confidence and communication skills. I knew in the back of my mind this was true, but it took me well over a decade (arguably two) to actually learn. Part of it is how you talk to people, part of it is how well you can pick up on body language, hints, subtle social contexts. This is very very very important to women. It's a big red flag when a guy is as they might put it, "clueless." Meanwhile it's a frustrating experience not understanding what's going on for the guy. Dating aside, an empathetic listener who reads body language will usually be someone more engaging and engaged to interact with.