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I happen to catch part of conversation between two young, very good looking female colleagues of mine back when I still used to go to office (same cubicle, some

by akudha 4y ago

I happen to catch part of conversation between two young, very good looking female colleagues of mine back when I still used to go to office (same cubicle, sometimes I heard things even though I didn't mean to). They were disappointed that they couldn't get invites to some party where rich wall street type guys were going to, aka "catches" (their words, not mine). The funny thing is, the very same office was filled with nice, young, smart, good looking men. Just not rich enough. This is just an anecdote, I am not saying all women go for rich dudes, neither am I stereotyping. But yeah, being able to afford nice things in life is a significant advantage in dating. I suppose being rich is advantageous in everything

teolandon 4y ago
I'm sorry but this comment is missing OP's point, and is instead just feeding into the stereotype of women being gold diggers. OP's comment was talking about the difference between guys who can afford a nice apartment vs guys who still need to live in their parents' home. It was a practical thing, where anyone would want a private space for dating. Your comment took it to a different level, where you're talking about people in your office vs wall street rich people. In this scenario, there are people like those two female colleagues of yours (that you described as young and very good looking, which was unnecessary), who will have a preference for rich guys, but there are other women who would prefer your coworkers in the office. It's a preference thing rather than a practical thing, like OP's observation in their comment.
- Manuel_D 4y ago
  Not all stereotypes are untrue. People may engage in the stereotype that men are more likely to commit violent crime - does that invalidate crime stats? There's ample evidence that women prefer wealthy and higher status men. Income attraction is a widely studied pattern: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0167268114003242 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S01672...
seydor 4y ago
I think social signaling has more to do with ... society. Wall street rich guys are more popular/more talked about/famous than the rich guys at the office and people want validation, always and everywhere. The vast majority of women are not golddiggers and will be happy with some (good) amount of money (many men will, too), not necessarily the highest. Many women are charmed by influential but poor people I dont know if you can solve this popularity contest, because 'geek chic' has been tried and failed. But maybe if the guys who are lower in the sexual pecking order stopped worshipping and making the guys at the top even more famous, it would help them.

by akudha 4y ago

teolandon 4y ago

I'm sorry but this comment is missing OP's point, and is instead just feeding into the stereotype of women being gold diggers. OP's comment was talking about the difference between guys who can afford a nice apartment vs guys who still need to live in their parents' home. It was a practical thing, where anyone would want a private space for dating. Your comment took it to a different level, where you're talking about people in your office vs wall street rich people. In this scenario, there are people like those two female colleagues of yours (that you described as young and very good looking, which was unnecessary), who will have a preference for rich guys, but there are other women who would prefer your coworkers in the office. It's a preference thing rather than a practical thing, like OP's observation in their comment.

Manuel_D 4y ago
Not all stereotypes are untrue. People may engage in the stereotype that men are more likely to commit violent crime - does that invalidate crime stats? There's ample evidence that women prefer wealthy and higher status men. Income attraction is a widely studied pattern: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0167268114003242 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S01672...

seydor 4y ago

I think social signaling has more to do with ... society. Wall street rich guys are more popular/more talked about/famous than the rich guys at the office and people want validation, always and everywhere. The vast majority of women are not golddiggers and will be happy with some (good) amount of money (many men will, too), not necessarily the highest. Many women are charmed by influential but poor people I dont know if you can solve this popularity contest, because 'geek chic' has been tried and failed. But maybe if the guys who are lower in the sexual pecking order stopped worshipping and making the guys at the top even more famous, it would help them.