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You say that like she's getting the good end of the deal. But everything I've heard from women on those apps, they'd rather have the "handful of sincere respons

You say that like she's getting the good end of the deal. But everything I've heard from women on those apps, they'd rather have the "handful of sincere responses" experience than the "bazillion goofs spamming them and sending dick pics at the first hello".

nh23423fefe 4y ago
This isn't a refutation. You aren't saying women would trade places with men. You're saying women would trade the current experience of massive attention for a new experience of curated sincere attention. So damaging the male experience further.
- maweaver 4y ago
  I don't know if they would trade places with men, but it's definitely not a fun experience for them either. There seems to be a large group of men out there who are, not to put too fine a point on it, "single for a reason". Curating them out of the matches would damage their experience, but vastly improve the experience for everyone else. And maybe help clue them in that they need to make some changes if they want to find a compatible partner. Assuming a perfect curation system, which, I concede, is impossible.
- wpietri 4y ago
  It's been a while since I was on a dating site, but my experience was exactly that of a small amount of incoming attention, but almost all of it sincere. So yes, I think a lot of women would be happy to make that trade. I just never saw a lot of the awful behavior that women get on the regular. E.g., the guys who will go from "u r hot" to "fuck you bitch" in a series of DMs over 12 hours with absolutely no response from women. It honestly amazes me that so many of them stay in the dating market at all.
wolongong942 4y ago
Those women would rationalize all of those goofy behaviors as being OK if the guy had the good genetics.
- wpietri 4y ago
  I am truly fascinated at the people this topic is bringing out here.
- owlglass 4y ago
  If you're talking about the Halo Effect, both men and women are susceptible to it. Interestingly, this effect might be "negated by feelings of jealousy in women" [1]. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect#Gender_differences https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect#Gender_differences

nh23423fefe 4y ago

This isn't a refutation. You aren't saying women would trade places with men. You're saying women would trade the current experience of massive attention for a new experience of curated sincere attention. So damaging the male experience further.

maweaver 4y ago
I don't know if they would trade places with men, but it's definitely not a fun experience for them either. There seems to be a large group of men out there who are, not to put too fine a point on it, "single for a reason". Curating them out of the matches would damage their experience, but vastly improve the experience for everyone else. And maybe help clue them in that they need to make some changes if they want to find a compatible partner. Assuming a perfect curation system, which, I concede, is impossible.
wpietri 4y ago
It's been a while since I was on a dating site, but my experience was exactly that of a small amount of incoming attention, but almost all of it sincere. So yes, I think a lot of women would be happy to make that trade. I just never saw a lot of the awful behavior that women get on the regular. E.g., the guys who will go from "u r hot" to "fuck you bitch" in a series of DMs over 12 hours with absolutely no response from women. It honestly amazes me that so many of them stay in the dating market at all.

wolongong942 4y ago

Those women would rationalize all of those goofy behaviors as being OK if the guy had the good genetics.

wpietri 4y ago
I am truly fascinated at the people this topic is bringing out here.
owlglass 4y ago
If you're talking about the Halo Effect, both men and women are susceptible to it. Interestingly, this effect might be "negated by feelings of jealousy in women" [1]. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect#Gender_differences https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect#Gender_differences