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I have a healthy dating life outside of apps, but yeah - I think women understanding how difficult and dramatically different online dating is for men in compar
by 71a54xd 4y ago
I have a healthy dating life outside of apps, but yeah - I think women understanding how difficult and dramatically different online dating is for men in comparison to women will never truly be accepted or taken seriously by women.
- RationPhantoms 4y agoThe best way I've heard to explain the difference is men are dying of thirst in a desert and woman are dying of thirst in an ocean.
- Zigurd 4y agoI hope the depth of that analogy is intentional.
- BurningFrog 4y agoI think women get it when they experience the same thing in their 40s.
- bt4u 4y ago[dead]
- dashdot 4y agoIt's definitely different. But difficult is subjective. Personally, I prefer the experience as a male. Instead of getting flooded with goofs, I can focus on a small amount of matches.
- 71a54xd 4y agoI think the most damaging reality of these apps is when a man who himself thinks he's low-value and doesn't understand how to improve only gets a few matches from the algo of women who are below average attractiveness. I'm going to get flamed for this but in general I think it's right to assume that the average woman in 2022 is less attractive than the average man, BMI / height stats support this. This outcome generally signals to at-risk men (in terms of mental state) that women they would find attractive have all swiped left on them only leaving below average or physically unfit women. It's also entirely likely that they might just not be desire-able on dating apps and in fact, are only matched with people who don't have standards. That said, I think standards are important on both sides AND I've had men far more attractive than me also encounter a situation of only having a handful of matches even in NYC.
- astrange 4y ago> I'm going to get flamed for this but in general I think it's right to assume that the average woman in 2022 is less attractive than the average man, BMI / height stats support this. What's your definition of attractive height…?
- 71a54xd 4y agoDefinitely 6' and up - and I'm shorter than that. It's pretty obvious, but I don't lose sleep about it. I also meant BMI relative to height, not height in general. Statistics don't lie in terms of what each population generally finds attractive.