A useful question I think can be asked in circumstances like this is "what value does this new comment bring to the table?" If a family in financial trouble ju

A useful question I think can be asked in circumstances like this is "what value does this new comment bring to the table?" If a family in financial trouble just lost their son to a car accident, for example, is it the right time to say "well, at least you won't need to pay for his college."?