>objectively it doesn't hurt you in any way, but the reason it does is because you have these strong beliefs against it, so you basically choose to be hurt. If

>objectively it doesn't hurt you in any way, but the reason it does is because you have these strong beliefs against it, so you basically choose to be hurt. If you acknowledge it does hurt them in some subjective way, why do you assume that the reason it hurts them is because they have strong beliefs about it, and not the other way around?