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Please don't take the following as a flamebait, or gaslighting, or whatever, I mean it in the best and most polite way possible. Your comment is still mildly s

by yreg 4y ago

Please don't take the following as a flamebait, or gaslighting, or whatever, I mean it in the best and most polite way possible. Your comment is still mildly sexist in my view. You say that brothers would do this, you say that sisters would not do this (the woman would not allow them to do this). I think that position is unfair. Surely there are many men who wouldn't do it or who wouldn't be capable of doing it. Also surely there are many women who would do it and who would be perfectly capable of doing it. The differentiator between the siblings who would do this kind of action and those who would not is not their gender. The differentiator is their guts, the way they think, their physical abilities and their confidence in their physical abilities. It correlates with their gender, but it is not determined by their gender. --- To be clear I don't consider this a major issue, just want to express it better.

exclusiv 4y ago
I don't think it's unfair. It's not a competition between brothers or sisters nor do I think sisters taking a different route makes them lesser to men. In most cases, sisters going a different route would be the smarter play. And even in this case, it could have gone really wrong if the creep had a weapon and was aggressive or killed someone after speeding off. But that didn't happen and the stalking didn't escalate. So sometimes... courage and strength mixed with some recklessness is the best resolution. And I don't think this guy should be dragged across the coals for saying his sister was lucky to have three brothers. This IS a 3 brother type of solution to a problem. On the aggregate, you know I'm right. Not saying there can't be a pack of three sisters that would respond similarly, but it would be a rare exception. Do I need to update my statement to say "499 of 500 sister pairs would not have gone this route" and "Nor would 499 in 500 women allow their sisters to go vigilante for her". Do we really need to preface every statement that has a rare exception? If so, I'm not sure we can talk about much. We couldn't even say that humans have 5 fingers on each hand because not everyone does. There are real differences between the sexes. I don't get all sensitive about that fact. Or get all sensitive when someone who gets a positive resolution and risked their safety for their sister doesn't write in a professionally sensitive, west coast manner. The guy expressed his story in a rather tame macho manner and people are getting upset after his victory protecting his sister lol.

by yreg 4y ago

exclusiv 4y ago

I don't think it's unfair. It's not a competition between brothers or sisters nor do I think sisters taking a different route makes them lesser to men. In most cases, sisters going a different route would be the smarter play. And even in this case, it could have gone really wrong if the creep had a weapon and was aggressive or killed someone after speeding off. But that didn't happen and the stalking didn't escalate. So sometimes... courage and strength mixed with some recklessness is the best resolution. And I don't think this guy should be dragged across the coals for saying his sister was lucky to have three brothers. This IS a 3 brother type of solution to a problem. On the aggregate, you know I'm right. Not saying there can't be a pack of three sisters that would respond similarly, but it would be a rare exception. Do I need to update my statement to say "499 of 500 sister pairs would not have gone this route" and "Nor would 499 in 500 women allow their sisters to go vigilante for her". Do we really need to preface every statement that has a rare exception? If so, I'm not sure we can talk about much. We couldn't even say that humans have 5 fingers on each hand because not everyone does. There are real differences between the sexes. I don't get all sensitive about that fact. Or get all sensitive when someone who gets a positive resolution and risked their safety for their sister doesn't write in a professionally sensitive, west coast manner. The guy expressed his story in a rather tame macho manner and people are getting upset after his victory protecting his sister lol.