Very well put, and I agree. It's usually not a difference of mental health; it's a difference of values. One of the wild things to me, though, is the doublethi

Very well put, and I agree. It's usually not a difference of mental health; it's a difference of values. One of the wild things to me, though, is the doublethink. It's true that if you ask them, they'll often say it was justified. But on the other hand, they generally know to save the worst of it until they can't be observed by outsiders. They're usually quite canny about presenting a non-abusive face to the world. So there's an important sense in which they know what they're doing is wrong.