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I think tipping at its very best is an opportunity to give a stranger a small gift. I recognize your points -- sometimes it feels like an obligated payment and
by q845712 4y ago
I think tipping at its very best is an opportunity to give a stranger a small gift. I recognize your points -- sometimes it feels like an obligated payment and probably in nearly all cases the capital owning class could and/or should contribute more, but i think you're excluding some optional perspectives. Sometimes I just want to help someone have a nice day by giving them something they didn't expect, like a generous tip. The escalation of niceness and virtue signalling seems right now to be creating an expectation of that generosity, which undermines it, since it can feel non-optional, but sometimes it's still just a nice thing one human can do to recognize another human.
- hgsgm 4y agoWhy so you give preferential treatment to those specific jobs?
- sacrosancty 4y ago[dead]
- spencerflem 4y agohow on earth is this, a back-breakingly empathetic comment, being downvoted thank you for being reasonable and for having far more patience than I
- mikhael28 4y agoCash is a terrible gift. It shows you don't care. The best Christmas gifts were actual things - not an envelope with $60 in it.
- spencerflem 4y agoBut this isn't christmas ... ?
- midasuni 4y agoI give my wife €1 million every Christmas. She gives me the exact same gift. We’re thinking we need to increase it because of inflation.
- cudgy 4y agoPerhaps, but it can show you care that the person get what they actually want instead of another item for the landfill or something they feel obligated to keep around for when you visit.
- spadros 4y agoDisagree hard. I’ve been given so many garbage gifts that I immediately threw away or donated. I tell my family members to just do cash or gift cards for me. I’d rather get exactly what I need than some junk I’ll never use.
- dr_dshiv 4y agoHaving been living in the Netherlands, it now feels so patronizing to tip. Like, “I am rich person. I will give you some money, service person. Now smile and appreciate my lordship.”—how it feels to tip.
- midasuni 4y agoI was in a taxi many years ago in Beijing. Meter said something like 16, I gave 20 and left. Driver chased me into the lobby to give me the change.
- nmeagent 4y agoI was in a KTV place in Shanghai several years ago and decided to tip the guy who was doing an excellent job at keeping our little room very well stocked with ice cold beer. I think I gave the guy like 100 RMB. A little later I had to explain to his manager what the money was for...
- midasuni 4y agoThat would certainly look like a bribe “Keep the change” has a benefit to both parties - no need to spend time waiting for change to be counted or carrying it round Colleague of mine left a new generator with his fixer in the Phillipenes when there was a massive hurricane a decade ago. He could the value of it was minimal once the time and money to ship it back to Europe was counted, reality was they needed the generator on site. Could be argued it’s not a bribe/tip/gift. Giving money directly for services rendered could be a bribe, could be paying him on the side (for more hours for example), could attract tax problems etc. Buying him dinner would be different.
- npteljes 4y ago>I think tipping at its very best is an opportunity to give a stranger a small gift. I think tips work well, if this is the case. When tips are expected, for example because otherwise the server makes much less than minimum wage, then it's not a small gift anymore, and that's problematic. But when I like a service, give a bit more, they like that, give me a bit more of a service, knowing that I'll give a bit more the next time too, then I don't think that's something I should be against. But the base price must be fair.