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I didn't like my kid before he existed that much either. Do you also write reviews of restaurants you haven't been to?

• WJW 4y ago
  No, but if I ask my friends who have been to the restaurant about how it was, then I can glean enough information from their responses to gauge whether I want to go there as well. Even if they feel compelled by social mores to say it was all great, you can observe how they act in addition to the things they say. We decided that while no doubt others love their children very much, it wasn't a lifestyle we were interested in.
  • majikaja 4y ago
    Maybe try talking to older people, not just your currently stressed-out social group. All your posts seems to say is "we heard that kids are hard work in the short term so we decided not to have them".
    • satvikpendem 4y ago
      Why are parents so predisposed with trying to convince other people to have children as well, especially those who have made a decision not to, either way?
      • majikaja 4y ago
        The same reason people who don't work are generally expected to look for a job. This has been mentioned by others. That's not to say that everyone has the same expectations.
        • satvikpendem 4y ago
          How are those analogous? People can live perfectly fine without a child but can't without a job (unless they live at home with their parents which coincidentally a lot of hikikomori do).
          • majikaja 4y ago
            The ability to attract and successfully integrate hundreds of thousands of immigrants per year to support an oversized elderly population is not a luxury that most countries that can afford. For most communities, normalizing childless will only come back to bite people in some form or another.
• Herbstluft 4y ago
  The number of people who actually regret having children is notable [1]. [1]: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34288933