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-- article gives no good advice on what to do when you ruined your life - so maybe hackernews has some good advice? --

meindnoch 4y ago
Depends on how you’ve ruined it. E.g. if you’ve got senteced to life in prison, then you should pick up a hobby like mathematics.
pjot 4y ago
You can always start a blog.
frontman1988 4y ago
It's tough giving advice without knowing the specifics. Ruined the life is different for different people. Someone who's failed their college degree might think their life is ruined, another person who's lost their entire family might think their life is ruined. Both are quite different cases to diagnose. For a general template, ChatGPT actually offers a good response: If you feel like you've "ruined your life," it's important to remember that it's never too late to make changes and improve your situation. Here are a few steps you can take: 1. Acknowledge what went wrong: Take responsibility for your actions and understand that you have the power to change the course of your life. 2. Seek help: Whether it's from a therapist, counselor, or support group, talking to someone about your feelings and situation can help you gain perspective and develop a plan for moving forward. 3. Make a plan: Identify specific goals and steps you can take to achieve them, such as getting a job, going back to school, or improving your relationships. 4. Take action: It's important to take consistent, small steps towards your goals. Even if progress is slow, you are moving forward. 5. Be patient with yourself: Remember that change takes time and that setbacks are normal. Be kind to yourself and don't give up. 6. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you in your journey. It's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it's possible to recover from even the most difficult situations. With time and effort, you can rebuild your life and create a better future for yourself.
throwayyy479087 4y ago
Yes! If you’ve really screwed the pooch, delete all internet presence and leave the country. No one in Costa Rica will look too deeply into your history. Leave illegally if you have to. Better to start over than many other options. If you’re too fucked for that, like you’re an active pedophile or a SBF figure, there’s another option that I’m not going to mention by name. Some modes of living - bring Derek Chauvin right now for example - are going to scare you so badly that when they end, you’re still fucked. Generally though, restarting is possible and much more common than you think.
- simonebrunozzi 4y ago
  > there’s another option that I’m not going to mention by name I don't know if you're suggesting one should commit suicide, or if you're talking about something else entirely.
  - rpmisms 4y ago
    It's suicide. If the only options before you are worse than death, then it becomes more appealing. I think I'd take death over a life sentence.
    - SpeedilyDamage 4y ago
      I would personally choose living in every scenario I can think of. Even agonizing pain is still better then the nothingness that’s waiting forever.
      - pawelduda 4y ago
        Why do you think it's better I wonder? You don't experience the nothingness since you cease to exist (assuming you meant no afterlife which the nothingness implied), so you aren't able to compare it to anything and say ”man I'd rather have antagonizing pain".
        SpeedilyDamage 4y ago
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peteforde 4y ago
Jon Ronson's (audio)book "So You've Been Publicly Shamed" is a starting point. https://www.amazon.com/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594634017 https://www.amazon.com/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594... For the attention-starved, here's the TED version: https://www.ted.com/talks/jon_ronson_when_online_shaming_goes_too_far?language=en https://www.ted.com/talks/jon_ronson_when_online_shaming_goe... Everyone is different; both in situation and tolerance for / ability to recover from trauma: - find a project that you're deeply passionate about and throw yourself into it - recruit a good therapist - don't skip exercise; lap swimming (Google AfterShokz Xtrainerz) is an excellent way to calm your mind and keep your heart ticking - don't let anyone convince you that the dumbest 0.01% of your life precludes you from finding meaning, belonging to a community or being loved

Depends on how you’ve ruined it. E.g. if you’ve got senteced to life in prison, then you should pick up a hobby like mathematics.

pjot 4y ago

You can always start a blog.

frontman1988 4y ago

It's tough giving advice without knowing the specifics. Ruined the life is different for different people. Someone who's failed their college degree might think their life is ruined, another person who's lost their entire family might think their life is ruined. Both are quite different cases to diagnose. For a general template, ChatGPT actually offers a good response: If you feel like you've "ruined your life," it's important to remember that it's never too late to make changes and improve your situation. Here are a few steps you can take: 1. Acknowledge what went wrong: Take responsibility for your actions and understand that you have the power to change the course of your life. 2. Seek help: Whether it's from a therapist, counselor, or support group, talking to someone about your feelings and situation can help you gain perspective and develop a plan for moving forward. 3. Make a plan: Identify specific goals and steps you can take to achieve them, such as getting a job, going back to school, or improving your relationships. 4. Take action: It's important to take consistent, small steps towards your goals. Even if progress is slow, you are moving forward. 5. Be patient with yourself: Remember that change takes time and that setbacks are normal. Be kind to yourself and don't give up. 6. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you in your journey. It's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it's possible to recover from even the most difficult situations. With time and effort, you can rebuild your life and create a better future for yourself.

throwayyy479087 4y ago

Yes! If you’ve really screwed the pooch, delete all internet presence and leave the country. No one in Costa Rica will look too deeply into your history. Leave illegally if you have to. Better to start over than many other options. If you’re too fucked for that, like you’re an active pedophile or a SBF figure, there’s another option that I’m not going to mention by name. Some modes of living - bring Derek Chauvin right now for example - are going to scare you so badly that when they end, you’re still fucked. Generally though, restarting is possible and much more common than you think.

simonebrunozzi 4y ago
> there’s another option that I’m not going to mention by name I don't know if you're suggesting one should commit suicide, or if you're talking about something else entirely.
- rpmisms 4y ago
  It's suicide. If the only options before you are worse than death, then it becomes more appealing. I think I'd take death over a life sentence.
  - SpeedilyDamage 4y ago
    I would personally choose living in every scenario I can think of. Even agonizing pain is still better then the nothingness that’s waiting forever.
    - pawelduda 4y ago
      Why do you think it's better I wonder? You don't experience the nothingness since you cease to exist (assuming you meant no afterlife which the nothingness implied), so you aren't able to compare it to anything and say ”man I'd rather have antagonizing pain".
      - SpeedilyDamage 4y ago

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peteforde 4y ago

Jon Ronson's (audio)book "So You've Been Publicly Shamed" is a starting point. https://www.amazon.com/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594634017 https://www.amazon.com/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594... For the attention-starved, here's the TED version: https://www.ted.com/talks/jon_ronson_when_online_shaming_goes_too_far?language=en https://www.ted.com/talks/jon_ronson_when_online_shaming_goe... Everyone is different; both in situation and tolerance for / ability to recover from trauma: - find a project that you're deeply passionate about and throw yourself into it - recruit a good therapist - don't skip exercise; lap swimming (Google AfterShokz Xtrainerz) is an excellent way to calm your mind and keep your heart ticking - don't let anyone convince you that the dumbest 0.01% of your life precludes you from finding meaning, belonging to a community or being loved