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> This is one of those things I personally have trouble wrapping my head around, but I know it happens. Kudos for getting it done. I think a lot of it boils do
by nunez 4y ago
> This is one of those things I personally have trouble wrapping my head around, but I know it happens. Kudos for getting it done.
I think a lot of it boils down to these factors:
- SUNK COST FALLACY. A lot of people work at one place for many, many years. When you're happy, your natural inclination is to not look around. So when the ball drops and things change, you long for the good old days and stay hoping for the things that kept you around to come back. Concurrently, your resume stale and you begin to forget what interviewing was like. As a result, when you finally realize "Oh my! I hate this fucking place!" you feel stuck.
- FEAR/LACKING SELF-WORTH. Maybe you have kids, a mortgage, a fancy remodel you're paying for, whatever. You are scared that your skills aren't attractive to employers. You're also scared you'll get found out and fired for treason or something. So you make do. (I was scared of this for a bit. The truth is, everyone knows when everyone is looking. "I'm feeling unwell" is the oldest lie in the book, most of the time.)
- FEAR OF CHANGE. "What if the new place sucks as much as this place?" This one's actually valid, but to that I say "What have you got to lose, except leaving a place you ALREADY KNOW is awful? Worst case, you leave and try again, which you can do now because you rock at interviewing!"