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God damn dude. Maybe you piss them off because you call their contributions “interference”. Honestly this is one of the most dickish things I could imagine sayi

God damn dude. Maybe you piss them off because you call their contributions “interference”. Honestly this is one of the most dickish things I could imagine saying about a colleague’s work.

ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago
Wow. That was pretty nasty. I thought we didn't make comments like that, here. I can see that we probably won't be working together, so I don't see why you felt the need to make that comment. In fact, I'm a pretty easy person to get along with, but you'll never know, now, will you? You've already decided how our relationship will go. I didn't call you any names. I've also worked in high-functioning teams since before a lot of folks on this site were born. In most cases, I was not the top dog, and there's a good chance that someone else was annoyed by my "contributions." There's also a tiny, tiny chance that I may have had some positive experiences, along the way. And isn't there a saying, somewhere, about "walking a mile in someone's shoes," or something?
- distortionfield 4y ago
  So you can't handle someone suggesting that what you said is (honestly and objectively) dickish and maybe the real source of your problem, but you can outright call others' hard work "interference" and it's all gravy and not at all unprofessional or rude? You've got a skewed idea of "nasty". Have a good rest of your day.
  - ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago
    But I didn't call someone else's "hard work" "interference." That was your interpretation. I have just had the very common experience of having my work destroyed by people that really had no qualifications, but did have the right, to mess it up. I have been working on a project with a bunch of folks, for the last couple of years, that has had its ups and downs, but hasn't had any of that nastiness that was so depressing, in my work life. I now know that it can be better. It's no longer just "wishful thinking." I now have proof. I had to go through a pretty rough patch, to get here, and I don't recommend the process to anyone. I was sharing that. For me, it's a good thing. And your post definitely was "nasty," and I was supposed to understand it as a personal attack. It was delivered as such, and was received as such. Have a great day.

God damn dude. Maybe you piss them off because you call their contributions “interference”. Honestly this is one of the most dickish things I could imagine saying about a colleague’s work.

ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago

Wow. That was pretty nasty. I thought we didn't make comments like that, here. I can see that we probably won't be working together, so I don't see why you felt the need to make that comment. In fact, I'm a pretty easy person to get along with, but you'll never know, now, will you? You've already decided how our relationship will go. I didn't call you any names. I've also worked in high-functioning teams since before a lot of folks on this site were born. In most cases, I was not the top dog, and there's a good chance that someone else was annoyed by my "contributions." There's also a tiny, tiny chance that I may have had some positive experiences, along the way. And isn't there a saying, somewhere, about "walking a mile in someone's shoes," or something?

distortionfield 4y ago
So you can't handle someone suggesting that what you said is (honestly and objectively) dickish and maybe the real source of your problem, but you can outright call others' hard work "interference" and it's all gravy and not at all unprofessional or rude? You've got a skewed idea of "nasty". Have a good rest of your day.
- ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago
  But I didn't call someone else's "hard work" "interference." That was your interpretation. I have just had the very common experience of having my work destroyed by people that really had no qualifications, but did have the right, to mess it up. I have been working on a project with a bunch of folks, for the last couple of years, that has had its ups and downs, but hasn't had any of that nastiness that was so depressing, in my work life. I now know that it can be better. It's no longer just "wishful thinking." I now have proof. I had to go through a pretty rough patch, to get here, and I don't recommend the process to anyone. I was sharing that. For me, it's a good thing. And your post definitely was "nasty," and I was supposed to understand it as a personal attack. It was delivered as such, and was received as such. Have a great day.