I've noticed this dynamic too... I have had relationships and jobs that had incredible levels of psychological abuse, and yet I stayed for way too long, and con

I've noticed this dynamic too... I have had relationships and jobs that had incredible levels of psychological abuse, and yet I stayed for way too long, and continued to rationalize the abuse. I think at some level I would start to get depressed and suffer low self esteem, and believe that any level of abuse or mistreatment was justified. After leaving, I can barely understand why I didn't see what was happening or admit it to myself. I was the perfect target for narcissists- any abuse or negativity would cause me to feel guilty and responsible, and try even harder to give them what they want.