I guess I came across harsh maybe, but I really am trying to constructively help OP. Rather than enabling that way of thinking and reassuring them, I think the

I guess I came across harsh maybe, but I really am trying to constructively help OP. Rather than enabling that way of thinking and reassuring them, I think they need a wake-up call. You're right, though. I don't know their circumstances and am projecting my own experience here.