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I'm there now. The endless cycle of staring at the bedroom ceiling trying to muster the will to get out of bed, the anger at the existencial inertia, the tiny v

I'm there now. The endless cycle of staring at the bedroom ceiling trying to muster the will to get out of bed, the anger at the existencial inertia, the tiny voice inside my head that says "jump" while staring at the abyss. Glad to see you made it out, guess there's still hope out there.

29athrowaway 4y ago
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- bovermyer 4y ago
  This comment comes off a little flippant, but it's also correct. A therapist can really help get you to a place where you feel more in control of your destiny. From there, you can take real action to get out of a bad situation. Source: personal experience.
- cpsns 4y ago
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  - 29athrowaway 4y ago
    Dawg, Your brain is in a way like any other organ in your body. When the other organs don't work you go see a doctor. We need to normalize talking about mental health. Instead of making it a big deal and stigmatizing it. We should be able to casually say "I went to the therapist yesterday and it was great, and then I got some eggs from the supermarket and then I made myself a sandwich". We spend too much time worrying about what other people think.
  - maerF0x0 4y ago
    > Everyone knows therapists exist, but there can be serious hurdles to “getting help” True. But also consider there are a class of people who suffer through things thinking "This is not that bad, right? Is this a normal experience"?. And especially an issue if they're isolated (which commonly causes depression), they lack normalcy around them reinforcing "Yes its that bad! That is not normal and you need help!"
  - hparadiz 4y ago
    This entire thread is a cry for help and yet the thing that would probably actually treat the problem is being dismissed. Just say you don't wanna do the work and stop making excuses. It's like complaining that going running could cause you to sprain your ankle when a doctor tells you to run for the health of your heart. Until you try it you have no idea what's gonna happen. Instead you do nothing paralyzed by inaction making excuses. Sounds like my hoarder father.
    - VLM 4y ago
      Treat the symptom, technically. The problem is a toxic working environment. The meta problem is handwaving away too many toxic working environments with "the root cause of the problem is solved because the victims can get therapy"
      - hparadiz 4y ago
        The actual root of the problem is the employee's own thinking. They don't have the self respect to exit a bad situation. They are paralyzed by low self esteem, fear of the unknown, and seem to be content being in a bad situation. The reasons are readily unclear to the person experiencing this and so they continue to go through this. A therapist will simply ask pointed questions like "how do you feel about [topic]?" And "why do you think think you deserve [topic]?" The point is to get you to take action by making you gain perspective and depth of self emotional understanding. Sometimes firing someone is the best thing you can do for someone. Op is so used to authority that the prospect of quiting paralyzes them with fear. Meanwhile the person that job hopped for the past 10 years shrugs and moves on with life. I've quit toxic jobs with nothing new lined up and my ability to do so was entirely from my own self respect and confidence. Without that you may never even find your potential. Imagine the work experience this person never attained because they are stuck in a toxic environment. There are life time friends I never would have met if I stuck around that shitty job all those years ago. It's no different than staying with an abuser.
        mansoon 4y ago
        I would just like to die now. I wish I’d left. It can get bad if you stay. Take everything.
- wnolens 4y ago
  If it were only so simple
- gallerdude 4y ago
  I hate that this became an insult. Therapy can be a really useful thing for a lot of people. I don’t know why some people need to punch down at people who are already hurt.
- moffkalast 4y ago
  Time to stop shitposting, bud.
didip 4y ago
Why not move on? I know that right now the economy is not exactly in a good shape, but what you are going through right now is worse.
- wnolens 4y ago
  Obviously overcoming the inertia to leetcode a while and go through the interview ringer on top of everything else that's going on in their life is WAY harder than just.. rolling out of bed whenever and logging on until the end of the day.
  - quickthrower2 4y ago
    Plus in my experience the new place will have a 75% chance of being no better.
    - balex 4y ago
      Respectfully, I don't think your personal experience is an indication of what it would be like for someone else. If your current situation sucks and you can step away (NOT end your life), do it. Whatever chance exists for things to get better, it's better than sticking with something you know is bad.

29athrowaway 4y ago

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bovermyer 4y ago
This comment comes off a little flippant, but it's also correct. A therapist can really help get you to a place where you feel more in control of your destiny. From there, you can take real action to get out of a bad situation. Source: personal experience.
cpsns 4y ago
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- 29athrowaway 4y ago
  Dawg, Your brain is in a way like any other organ in your body. When the other organs don't work you go see a doctor. We need to normalize talking about mental health. Instead of making it a big deal and stigmatizing it. We should be able to casually say "I went to the therapist yesterday and it was great, and then I got some eggs from the supermarket and then I made myself a sandwich". We spend too much time worrying about what other people think.
- maerF0x0 4y ago
  > Everyone knows therapists exist, but there can be serious hurdles to “getting help” True. But also consider there are a class of people who suffer through things thinking "This is not that bad, right? Is this a normal experience"?. And especially an issue if they're isolated (which commonly causes depression), they lack normalcy around them reinforcing "Yes its that bad! That is not normal and you need help!"
- hparadiz 4y ago
  This entire thread is a cry for help and yet the thing that would probably actually treat the problem is being dismissed. Just say you don't wanna do the work and stop making excuses. It's like complaining that going running could cause you to sprain your ankle when a doctor tells you to run for the health of your heart. Until you try it you have no idea what's gonna happen. Instead you do nothing paralyzed by inaction making excuses. Sounds like my hoarder father.
  - VLM 4y ago
    Treat the symptom, technically. The problem is a toxic working environment. The meta problem is handwaving away too many toxic working environments with "the root cause of the problem is solved because the victims can get therapy"
    - hparadiz 4y ago
      The actual root of the problem is the employee's own thinking. They don't have the self respect to exit a bad situation. They are paralyzed by low self esteem, fear of the unknown, and seem to be content being in a bad situation. The reasons are readily unclear to the person experiencing this and so they continue to go through this. A therapist will simply ask pointed questions like "how do you feel about [topic]?" And "why do you think think you deserve [topic]?" The point is to get you to take action by making you gain perspective and depth of self emotional understanding. Sometimes firing someone is the best thing you can do for someone. Op is so used to authority that the prospect of quiting paralyzes them with fear. Meanwhile the person that job hopped for the past 10 years shrugs and moves on with life. I've quit toxic jobs with nothing new lined up and my ability to do so was entirely from my own self respect and confidence. Without that you may never even find your potential. Imagine the work experience this person never attained because they are stuck in a toxic environment. There are life time friends I never would have met if I stuck around that shitty job all those years ago. It's no different than staying with an abuser.
      - mansoon 4y ago
        I would just like to die now. I wish I’d left. It can get bad if you stay. Take everything.
wnolens 4y ago
If it were only so simple
gallerdude 4y ago
I hate that this became an insult. Therapy can be a really useful thing for a lot of people. I don’t know why some people need to punch down at people who are already hurt.
moffkalast 4y ago
Time to stop shitposting, bud.

didip 4y ago

Why not move on? I know that right now the economy is not exactly in a good shape, but what you are going through right now is worse.

wnolens 4y ago
Obviously overcoming the inertia to leetcode a while and go through the interview ringer on top of everything else that's going on in their life is WAY harder than just.. rolling out of bed whenever and logging on until the end of the day.
- quickthrower2 4y ago
  Plus in my experience the new place will have a 75% chance of being no better.
  - balex 4y ago
    Respectfully, I don't think your personal experience is an indication of what it would be like for someone else. If your current situation sucks and you can step away (NOT end your life), do it. Whatever chance exists for things to get better, it's better than sticking with something you know is bad.