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Personally it's just being married to someone who's covid-cautious, has a busy job, along with having kids. It's difficult if not impossible to have a social li
by havblue 4y ago
Personally it's just being married to someone who's covid-cautious, has a busy job, along with having kids. It's difficult if not impossible to have a social life when all your efforts are dedicated towards work, chores and the kids (and your spouse won't budge on things that would simplify these pressures) There is no real party time, just responsibility and the occasional escape when the grandmothers can watch the little ones.
- tmn 4y agoWhat are some examples of areas you think would be reasonable for your spouse to budge (but they do not)?
- havblue 4y agoFor me it comes down to perfectionism vs pragmatism: Do you hire cleaners or clean your house yourself? Do you send the kids to a more expensive private school even though it's farther away? How much do you cook for yourself and how elaborate are the dishes you make? Do you prepare food for the kids every day even though the school has snacks anyway? How much time do you spend on your job? How much time do you spend commuting? How late are bed times when you get back late from your job? How many belongings do you keep that have to be stored and organized? So I guess I would say that when all is said and done there isn't any social time.
- tmn 4y agoI see. Thanks for the reply. I originally interpreted your comment to mean your spouse is covid cautious and will not budge on certain decisions related to that. This is not what you said though and this reply made your intended meaning clear. Best of luck navigating these things. I'm newly married and am certainly in store for similar areas to pick tradeoffs.