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I'm 55 and have gone to as many parties of my friends in the last 12 months as ever in my life. However, I do this by throwing them at my house. Granted, they

I'm 55 and have gone to as many parties of my friends in the last 12 months as ever in my life. However, I do this by throwing them at my house. Granted, they're more sit-down-eat-dinner-together-and-drink-wine, and less stand-around-and-drink-beer-and-blast-music, but they're still a bunch of friends in my house at once. If you want a lot of parties with friends, the best way is to throw them yourself. Your friends might also be interested in attending, but have less energy for hosting them.

libraryatnight 4y ago
Yes, I'm a weirdo procrastinator that's a bit of an introvert. I think all the time "It'd be nice to have some people over!" We'll have a housewarming on the 10 year anniversary of moving in I suspect. I know I myself realized a few months ago that the reason I suddenly only see people individually and infrequently anymore is our mutual friend that threw get-togethers moved up to a rural property during the pandemic which, in addition to the blow that was children, was the death-knell for his caring about his island of misfit friends. I always knew one of us would grow up. I don't know if I have what it takes to step in and fill that void. I may need to meet a new social friend ;)
conductr 4y ago
This is key. Older people do dinner parties. Maybe even with some light board/trivia games or some other activity. If your friends group doesn’t do it, you need to initiate and host. It often takes time to gain speed. Commit yourself to something like hosting monthly for a year. Send the invite a month ahead. Likely someone will offer to host at their place eventually and you can back off a bit. The ball of yarn doesn’t stay wound up without effort, it will unravel without attention and action. Also, and I’m horrible at this, but try to intermix your friends groups. So everyone’s network of friends grows. Also, cheat mode is just organizing dinners out. It’s easier but I think results in less memorable experiences and doesn’t do much to strengthen the relationships of those in attendance.

libraryatnight 4y ago

Yes, I'm a weirdo procrastinator that's a bit of an introvert. I think all the time "It'd be nice to have some people over!" We'll have a housewarming on the 10 year anniversary of moving in I suspect. I know I myself realized a few months ago that the reason I suddenly only see people individually and infrequently anymore is our mutual friend that threw get-togethers moved up to a rural property during the pandemic which, in addition to the blow that was children, was the death-knell for his caring about his island of misfit friends. I always knew one of us would grow up. I don't know if I have what it takes to step in and fill that void. I may need to meet a new social friend ;)

conductr 4y ago

This is key. Older people do dinner parties. Maybe even with some light board/trivia games or some other activity. If your friends group doesn’t do it, you need to initiate and host. It often takes time to gain speed. Commit yourself to something like hosting monthly for a year. Send the invite a month ahead. Likely someone will offer to host at their place eventually and you can back off a bit. The ball of yarn doesn’t stay wound up without effort, it will unravel without attention and action. Also, and I’m horrible at this, but try to intermix your friends groups. So everyone’s network of friends grows. Also, cheat mode is just organizing dinners out. It’s easier but I think results in less memorable experiences and doesn’t do much to strengthen the relationships of those in attendance.