No one is obliged to endure morally sane discomfort for the sake of someone else’s comfort. This isn’t “I don’t want to call her him because he’s a she.” The p

No one is obliged to endure morally sane discomfort for the sake of someone else’s comfort. This isn’t “I don’t want to call her him because he’s a she.” The person you’re replying to has a very valid discomfort with reducing a person to an object’s pronoun. Completely understandable and defensible and beyond the apparent needs of the author.