Here is the big stumbling block with this, right at this step: "Others try to help user with Y, but are confused because Y seems like a strange problem to want

Here is the big stumbling block with this, right at this step: "Others try to help user with Y, but are confused because Y seems like a strange problem to want to solve." Of course it is strange. If it were common, I would have, in my due diligence, already found it. I realize the Internet is filled with idiots who cannot or will not use Google, but it sure makes everything else fairly hard. Worst is having to specify, in the question itself, "This is not an XY problem," only for someone to try to find some way to make it an XY problem (you almost always can, if you try hard enough, and not just the degenerate case of "You wouldn't have this if you just stopped caring about X.") and then, once you have sufficiently proven yourself, those folks are nowhere to be found.