I experienced some of the issue you described. But in my above comment I generalized my own experience too much. For me personally, it was a combination of kin

I experienced some of the issue you described. But in my above comment I generalized my own experience too much. For me personally, it was a combination of kindness and brutal honesty that helped me to overcome these challenges. Well meaning bullshit only worsened my self-perception. For me it meant that my inner self-critic got sharper, more precise and clear instead of the carnage it created before. I didn't shut it up or try to soothe it and I'm glad for it. But that's _me_ so thank so for reminding me that it's too easy to generalize these kinds of things.