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I wonder if there is a gender gap here when it come to self talk. Most articles I've read about affirmations are usually written by women. For me as a man I jus

I wonder if there is a gender gap here when it come to self talk. Most articles I've read about affirmations are usually written by women. For me as a man I just don't identify with things like: "you are enough", my self talk is usually some expletive ridden tirade about what I'm doing wrong.

dv35z 4y ago
Your inner voice is essentially how you parent your inner child You. Imagine that 10 year old You was standing in front of adult you right now. Would you still use expletives etc? We ought to learn from 5th grade teachers on how to talk to kids - encouragement, “could” vs “should”, avoiding harsh criticism. Affirmations work because it’s giving deliberate encouragement/praise to our inner child selves. Saying things out out & hearing them is “special” to our brain. Deliberately using emotion (rather than saying it dryly & rote) is effective. Music can help.
nequo 4y ago
> my self talk is usually some expletive ridden tirade Dan Harris gave a short talk about how alien self-love practices felt to him, having lived with similarly harsh self-talk. It’s entertaining and it might resonate with you too: https://youtu.be/NuhIzO57HVk https://youtu.be/NuhIzO57HVk